Divorce and mediation essay

Marriage is an institution in which both a girl and a guy enter with their thousand dreams in their eyes and aspirations. The first few years of married life brings with it beauty and joy but as soon as the days pass, their happiness and their dreams just vanish away like small droplets of rain water. The romantic fervor that they had carried in the first few years of their married life soon turned into harsh reality, wherein the woman no longer remains a fairy but becomes a creature of flesh and blood, with her own whims and caprices, this what happened in the lives of Max and Kate.

Max and Kate had a love marriage. They met for the first time at the museum where Max was working and they got attracted towards each other, as they both had certain common traits, and were of same age. Max liked Kate’s appealing personality and her mannerism, and Kate liked his dark, tall and lanky appearance with an aptitude of attracting the women, and the way he showed attention towards the Kate’s words and his intensity of love. They both loved each other, wanted to care for each other, as was witnessed in the hotel where Max asked Kate to take spaghetti home, even though he knew of the fact that this act was sheer against his aptitude, but he did so as he cared for Kate. On the other hand Kate too had a feeling of respect for Max, Kate never wanted to take spaghetti home still she took it, but threw it away at the airport.

This apparently shows that they both had respect and love for each other but were compromising their own self. In their married life, Kate though belonged to the rural background, cultivated all the interests of Max like bird watching and Max too adopted her interests yet both in their hearts were feeling disillusionment. They both had to sacrifice their own interests, which was hurting them the most and inspite of their best efforts to save their marriage, they divorced. After their marriage was broken, they still remember each other and had feeling of love for each other.

Both Kate and Max were highly spirited and intelligent. Both loved each other and cared for each other and both knew that to lead a happily married life they have to compromise, but what shattered their married life was inferiority complex that they started cherishing in their hearts. Their marriage was no doubt could have been saved if both had been ready to compromise, but as seen in the end they were lot more happier after divorce because both of them were now leading their life on their own terms, without having to compromise. Thus in this case, Divorce proved to be a blessing in disguise for them.

Whenever there is a separation or divorce of such kind, it is not the fault of one but both husband and wife. The ego became the most dominating factor overpowering the love and their marriage vows, which finally led to the end of their most virtualized phase of their life. Works CitedThernstrom Melanie (August 24, 2003) Untying The Knot New York Times Magazine Retrieved May 23, 2007 from W. W. W: http://www. mhweb. org/mustread/articles9. htm